A conversation came to this, and I got me thinkin.

A friend of mine, as usual, brought up something that has been floating in my mind every since he brought up the topic/question. Love, which has been the ongoing topic in my life for the past few months.

What does falling in love mean? Is it possible? Can you fall out of love? Is it the foundation of a good relationship?

He asked this months ago, and now I think I finally have an answer.
First, what IS love? According to the bible, there's 3 types(not the exact names):
Erotic - Physical love, sexual love or as I heard it called, R&B love lol.
Brotherly - The love you have for your best friend(s).
Unconditional - Godly love. The "I'd do anything for you, no matter the cost, and want nothing in return" love
It's important that we don't confuse infatuation for love. And it's extremely important that we know the difference.

NOW, to the matter at hand. What does falling in love mean and is it possible?
I think it means truly feeling all three types of love to the highest degree of emotion, for one specific person. I think it's very possible, rare but possible. I think nobody truly finds that one person but instead finds that best they can. Sometimes people just look past that one person to pursue the person THEY think is the one.

Can you fall out of love?
I think if you're truly in love, than no. If you can fall out of love with somebody, then did you ever truly love them to begin with? However, people do change, but that's the unconditional type of love, "I love you no matter what". That, "Whatever happens, what ever you're going through, I'll be here my your side" love. It's things like that, that truly test if you're really in love with somebody.

Is it the foundation of a good relationship?
That's the hardest question of all in my opinion. In Ephesians 5:22-29, the Bible basically says "Women, submit to your husbands and men treat your wives with love and respect". So, I believe love is important to maintain a good relationship, but I believe respect is the foundation of a good relationship. If you love somebody yet talk down of them to other people or to their face, a relationship wont last, unless that person takes the abuse. Having said that, you need both for a good relationship. I think those two things are co-dependent of each other to maintain a good relationship.

What do you think?

So This Love?

Well, the big topic this week has apparently been this....thing called Love. What is love? Besides an awesome song by Keisha Cole and the subject to 60% of every song ever made lol. Have I previously been "in love" before.....maybe. Am I now? I could possibly be......who knows lol. But, that's not what's been on my mind about love. The thing that fascinates me is....not what love IS, but what love makes us do.

For example, love will keep you up all night, on the phone or what not, talking to that one person....about nothing, just to see them the next day. Love will make you loan your friend 100 bucks, just to say "don't worry about payin me back". Love will make a person cancel all their plans, just for a 10% chance of seein that special somebody. Love will make a person turn down the finest person on earth, just because the one they love is the only one they want to be with. Love will help there love ones reach their dreams, because seeing them smile is the greatest sight in the world. Love will let you watch that loved one move far away, just because it'll better themselves. Love will keep u faithful in between the times u don't see them. Love will make you drive 6 hours, just to see that person for 1. Love will make you change everything about you, even when you vowed to never make such a compromise for anybody...ever. Love will make a burp look like the sexiest thing on earth. Love will make you watch all them chick flicks....and actually pay attention. Love will make you cry, just because of the slight chance that you may have hurt that person you love in any sort of way. Love will make them simplest thing, like a hello, brighten the most darkest day. Love will make sitting next to that person and doin jack shit, the funnest time of your life. Love will give you hope. Love will make u take a bullet. will keep you on a job for 30 years, because everyday feels like a new day. Love will put you in debt, just to see your kids in college.

But......love will make u cry at night, when that person can't say the same. Love will make u hurt, when you'll never see that person again. Love will make you stay in the worst of relationships, no matter how hard u try to get out. Love will make you call and P.I, just because your friends convinced you they might..MIGHT be cheating. Love will make u put up with stuff that'll make you cry the second you're alone for a few minutes. Love turn u to the bottle when that person leaves you....for good. Love will make you give up your dreams, just because somebody else doesn't believe in you. Love can make u suffer.

But, from what they tell me......love is very much so worth it....in the end...as long as it's true.

Forever more

I wrote this poem........almost 4 years ago (someone forced me to write a poem on the spot lol), and lost it 2 years ago and have been looking for it since. I now I've found it.

On a dark and stormy night
I look to the sky and wonder
were all the time went

So old yet so young
so weak yet so strong
wasting my life away

I picked up the phone
I froze out of fright
Wondering what I'm doing

I stop and swim in my own sarrow
regretting the thing I didn't do
and the phone rings

It's that one person that means so much
the one wrong suddenly turned right
and the day is turned bright

My cold heart becomes warm
it overflows with love
and what felt like waste is no worth

Worth that spreads endlessly
Spent with the one lave
Love forever more

So good

run my fingers thru your hair
embrace the smell of the air
when I'm with you I feel no time
I'd drop my whole life on the dime
Runnin thru my dreams at night
The only one who's in my sights

Oooooooo you make me feel
I feel so, feel so good
Oooooooo you make me feel
I feel alive, feel so good

If feelin this good is a crime
I more then willing serve the time
You make my life feel like a dream
It flows and flows and flows it seems
If missing you will be my pain
I more then willing play the game

Oooooooo you make me feel
I feel so, feel so good
Oooooooo you make me feel
I feel alive, feel so good