A conversation came to this, and I got me thinkin.

A friend of mine, as usual, brought up something that has been floating in my mind every since he brought up the topic/question. Love, which has been the ongoing topic in my life for the past few months.

What does falling in love mean? Is it possible? Can you fall out of love? Is it the foundation of a good relationship?

He asked this months ago, and now I think I finally have an answer.
First, what IS love? According to the bible, there's 3 types(not the exact names):
Erotic - Physical love, sexual love or as I heard it called, R&B love lol.
Brotherly - The love you have for your best friend(s).
Unconditional - Godly love. The "I'd do anything for you, no matter the cost, and want nothing in return" love
It's important that we don't confuse infatuation for love. And it's extremely important that we know the difference.

NOW, to the matter at hand. What does falling in love mean and is it possible?
I think it means truly feeling all three types of love to the highest degree of emotion, for one specific person. I think it's very possible, rare but possible. I think nobody truly finds that one person but instead finds that best they can. Sometimes people just look past that one person to pursue the person THEY think is the one.

Can you fall out of love?
I think if you're truly in love, than no. If you can fall out of love with somebody, then did you ever truly love them to begin with? However, people do change, but that's the unconditional type of love, "I love you no matter what". That, "Whatever happens, what ever you're going through, I'll be here my your side" love. It's things like that, that truly test if you're really in love with somebody.

Is it the foundation of a good relationship?
That's the hardest question of all in my opinion. In Ephesians 5:22-29, the Bible basically says "Women, submit to your husbands and men treat your wives with love and respect". So, I believe love is important to maintain a good relationship, but I believe respect is the foundation of a good relationship. If you love somebody yet talk down of them to other people or to their face, a relationship wont last, unless that person takes the abuse. Having said that, you need both for a good relationship. I think those two things are co-dependent of each other to maintain a good relationship.

What do you think?