A year ago, I learned a life lesson. It's not about how good or bad life is, it's about enjoying the good and finding the silver lining when it's not. Never giving up when things look bleak.
A year ago, I didn't have a job. I sold almost all my music equipment. But instead of complaining about not having a job or losing all my gear, I enjoyed the free time I finally got. I was counting down the weeks until my unemployment ran out. I was unsure what my next move was, because every move seemed to not work. I was enjoying my life as much as I could. It was like a guy playing blackjack with 2 2's and the dealer has a bust. I call that blessed.
6 months ago, I was unhappy, I was stressed and my life felt like it was crumbling around me. I hated my job, I was in a stressful and dying relationship, I wanted to quit school........I was miserable. Every thing I touched felt like it turned to crap. I was in a downward spiral and I just couldn't do anything to stop it. I kept a smile on my face, a laugh in my lung but I on the inside, I just couldn't enjoy life.
Now, I have a job even when the economy said it was impossible. I'm stress....less. Yes, there are things that worry me, there are things that upset me, but at the end of the day I remain happy. I'm me again! A year later, I can say that I'm honestly in love with life. But I know this much, I'll never forget the lesson I've learned.
All I can do is testify now. God is good....no incredible! Matter of fact....there's not human word that could describe how good God is. God is just....
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Sunday, December 4, 2011
I wanted to sleep but I feel like venting. So many things on my mind right now. Something that evolved from a converstation I had earlier with a co-worker.
Dear Women,
Sometimes.....I'm tired of being the nice guy. I'm tired of being the "there should be more men like you" guy. I'm tired of being of being just a friend. I'm. Tired of just being a "real great guy". I'm tired for being overlooked for the man that isn't capable of loving the way I do. The love I show knows no equal yet goes unshown. All I want to do is treat you like the queen you deserve to be. Yet I get passed over by the guy that treats you like a peasent. I want to give you the world...and you take it. But you give it to the man that give you nothing but discontent. You say you want an aggressive man, but when he puts his hands on you, you call it "passion". Don't mistake my cool, my calm and my zen for weakness. I'm aggressive when it's needed the most. I'm a nice guy, not a push over. I don't show aggression because my mind has no boundaries. I've be transformed into a winner and competitor, even if it feels like I'm always losing you. I'm tired of being the guy you complain to about that very "man" you left us for, when we both know you should be with us. I'm tired of being heart broken and feeling like a fool.......seeing some undeserving guy taking the person that makes us smile brighter than the light of a billion burning suns. Yeah.....they say nice guys finish last and get the most priceless gem. However.....it gets harder and harder when we find that precious gem and she leave for a guy that treats her like plastic. I'm tired of being told what you want, when we sit and listen to you discribe us. All we want is that chance to finally love that precious gem that we found so many times. That chance to make all you female friends jealous when you tell them how we treat you. When you tell them the things we do for you, that they can only dream about. Give us the chance of having our queen......the chance to love you. One day.....we will be that happiest men on earth....the only thing we want...is for you to be there to share it with.
Your friends,
The Nice Guys
Dear Women,
Sometimes.....I'm tired of being the nice guy. I'm tired of being the "there should be more men like you" guy. I'm tired of being of being just a friend. I'm. Tired of just being a "real great guy". I'm tired for being overlooked for the man that isn't capable of loving the way I do. The love I show knows no equal yet goes unshown. All I want to do is treat you like the queen you deserve to be. Yet I get passed over by the guy that treats you like a peasent. I want to give you the world...and you take it. But you give it to the man that give you nothing but discontent. You say you want an aggressive man, but when he puts his hands on you, you call it "passion". Don't mistake my cool, my calm and my zen for weakness. I'm aggressive when it's needed the most. I'm a nice guy, not a push over. I don't show aggression because my mind has no boundaries. I've be transformed into a winner and competitor, even if it feels like I'm always losing you. I'm tired of being the guy you complain to about that very "man" you left us for, when we both know you should be with us. I'm tired of being heart broken and feeling like a fool.......seeing some undeserving guy taking the person that makes us smile brighter than the light of a billion burning suns. Yeah.....they say nice guys finish last and get the most priceless gem. However.....it gets harder and harder when we find that precious gem and she leave for a guy that treats her like plastic. I'm tired of being told what you want, when we sit and listen to you discribe us. All we want is that chance to finally love that precious gem that we found so many times. That chance to make all you female friends jealous when you tell them how we treat you. When you tell them the things we do for you, that they can only dream about. Give us the chance of having our queen......the chance to love you. One day.....we will be that happiest men on earth....the only thing we want...is for you to be there to share it with.
Your friends,
The Nice Guys
Thursday, December 1, 2011
%99? Let's change it to %95
I know this whole.....occupy LA and Wall Street madness is over. Thank God!
I for one, don't feel like being bunched into the mass group of the %99, mainly because not all of us share the same beliefs at all.
Firstly....%99......why do you disregard the fact that a good number of the %1 USE TO BE THE %99???? Why do you insult the sleepless nights, social exile, blood, sweat and tears they spent busting their butts to be where they are? Do you no know that you were the same people that insulted them and laughed in their face when they said "One day you'll work for me!" Well guess what, you do!
Ok, yeah, they have this control over everything. But that's what they worked hard for! They weren't out protesting because they don't have a 6+ figure job. They were inside fighting all odds to get it!
The part that gets me tho....most of all....is how you protest....yet you're so dependent on them. You sit in and sip on your Starbucks coffee, yet you protest the %1. You can't LIVE without your iPod or iPhone, yet you protest the %1. You dress in name brand clothes like Gap, Banana Republic, Nike, American Eagle, Ambacrombe & Finch, ect. Yet while wearing those clothes, you protest. You watch and enjoy sports and movies, buy jerseys and what not, go to games and pay to see movies...but did you not realize you're protesting against them too? You drive your cars, regardless of type, yet you protest the people that make them (and your gas).
I could go on like this for a loooooong long time, but I'll stop now.
All I'm saying is, until you can live with any of these comforts of life, shut that mouth, the live life with the cards you were dealt. Most of us have fantastic lives even tho we aren't "The %1". We struggle, yes. We grind. We work. But we HAVE. Majority of us will never know what it means to be poor, not broke, poor. Majority of us will never know what it feels like to not know where we're going to sleep tonight, or if we're going to eat today.
The worst part is, when those people need help, we turn our backs on them so we can complain about "The %1" without turning around to gain some prospective.
You aren't the %99, you're the %95, because there's %4 of people that you forgot about.
I for one, don't feel like being bunched into the mass group of the %99, mainly because not all of us share the same beliefs at all.
Firstly....%99......why do you disregard the fact that a good number of the %1 USE TO BE THE %99???? Why do you insult the sleepless nights, social exile, blood, sweat and tears they spent busting their butts to be where they are? Do you no know that you were the same people that insulted them and laughed in their face when they said "One day you'll work for me!" Well guess what, you do!
Ok, yeah, they have this control over everything. But that's what they worked hard for! They weren't out protesting because they don't have a 6+ figure job. They were inside fighting all odds to get it!
The part that gets me tho....most of all....is how you protest....yet you're so dependent on them. You sit in and sip on your Starbucks coffee, yet you protest the %1. You can't LIVE without your iPod or iPhone, yet you protest the %1. You dress in name brand clothes like Gap, Banana Republic, Nike, American Eagle, Ambacrombe & Finch, ect. Yet while wearing those clothes, you protest. You watch and enjoy sports and movies, buy jerseys and what not, go to games and pay to see movies...but did you not realize you're protesting against them too? You drive your cars, regardless of type, yet you protest the people that make them (and your gas).
I could go on like this for a loooooong long time, but I'll stop now.
All I'm saying is, until you can live with any of these comforts of life, shut that mouth, the live life with the cards you were dealt. Most of us have fantastic lives even tho we aren't "The %1". We struggle, yes. We grind. We work. But we HAVE. Majority of us will never know what it means to be poor, not broke, poor. Majority of us will never know what it feels like to not know where we're going to sleep tonight, or if we're going to eat today.
The worst part is, when those people need help, we turn our backs on them so we can complain about "The %1" without turning around to gain some prospective.
You aren't the %99, you're the %95, because there's %4 of people that you forgot about.
Friday, November 11, 2011
Learn and grow
You live........and you learn. Learning......sometimes......just hurts. It can bring the strongest person you know to their knees in a puddle of tears wondering "Why me?". I guess, that's only when we don't wanna learn. I've come to learn.....I just can't change everything I want it life. Sort of my...coming to terms that I'm not 100% in control. When things don't work out the way you want, when you pray for answers and the answer you get is the direct opposite of what you want....learning gets hard.
It's important to learn. I come to think, that the more something hurts when you learn it, the more you looked away, because it's not the first time it's been shown to you. Like the 3-strikes bs, you break the law 3 times and you get life in prison. If you don't learn, it consequenses get worse.....and worse........and worse.........and worse. If we would learn the first time, we probably would never experience that type of hurt.
It's kind of hard sometimes tho. It's not like we're a football team (GO COWBOYS!). It's not like when we make mistakes we can go to the film room and review. Then after we see what went wrong, practice to remedy the problem. We tend to forget what we learned. Not instantly, but after time....once things go right. We....regress. It's not bad, it's not like we didn't learn, we just....haven't practiced. I know myself, I'm the weakest when I'm overwhelmed in situations that I haven't been in before. We talk all this mess about what we WOULD do, but then when it's game day, we're lost.
I's rather be that....then refusing to learn and willingly putting myself in a vicious cycle. It's like a man/woman who cheats and gets caught. I think, most people would stop.... I would hope at least. But then you have people who continue to cheat, over and over and over again. And every time things end the same. But they refuse to learn. Cycle continues.
All in all, life is full of experiences and....like they say, history repeats itself....because we don't learn.
If you don't mind me being personal and open, my problem was relationships. If you are a certain way in your relationships and they ALL end the same or face the same hardship, it's time to think. If it's just one time, then yeah, maybe it's the person. But if it's over and over, it's time to look with in yourself, because the problem is oneself. I'm not beating myself up, because I wasn't the ONLY problem, but I contributed. But, I can say I've learned. I'm still learning and growing. Reflecting and working on improving on myself. Learning and growing is the name of the game. I have my playbook, I've added plays and I'm remembering them. I hope you have yours, because it's game time.
It's important to learn. I come to think, that the more something hurts when you learn it, the more you looked away, because it's not the first time it's been shown to you. Like the 3-strikes bs, you break the law 3 times and you get life in prison. If you don't learn, it consequenses get worse.....and worse........and worse.........and worse. If we would learn the first time, we probably would never experience that type of hurt.
It's kind of hard sometimes tho. It's not like we're a football team (GO COWBOYS!). It's not like when we make mistakes we can go to the film room and review. Then after we see what went wrong, practice to remedy the problem. We tend to forget what we learned. Not instantly, but after time....once things go right. We....regress. It's not bad, it's not like we didn't learn, we just....haven't practiced. I know myself, I'm the weakest when I'm overwhelmed in situations that I haven't been in before. We talk all this mess about what we WOULD do, but then when it's game day, we're lost.
I's rather be that....then refusing to learn and willingly putting myself in a vicious cycle. It's like a man/woman who cheats and gets caught. I think, most people would stop.... I would hope at least. But then you have people who continue to cheat, over and over and over again. And every time things end the same. But they refuse to learn. Cycle continues.
All in all, life is full of experiences and....like they say, history repeats itself....because we don't learn.
If you don't mind me being personal and open, my problem was relationships. If you are a certain way in your relationships and they ALL end the same or face the same hardship, it's time to think. If it's just one time, then yeah, maybe it's the person. But if it's over and over, it's time to look with in yourself, because the problem is oneself. I'm not beating myself up, because I wasn't the ONLY problem, but I contributed. But, I can say I've learned. I'm still learning and growing. Reflecting and working on improving on myself. Learning and growing is the name of the game. I have my playbook, I've added plays and I'm remembering them. I hope you have yours, because it's game time.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Monday, May 9, 2011
We let alot of things get in the waiy of our callings. The thing we havr to realize is.........those things aren't always bad things. There are MANY good things that actually get in the way of our callings (even if we didn't even notice). We just have to keep our eyes on the prize and fight towards our goals.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
It's been about 7 months.....and I never said (on my blog lol) how much I appreciate and how much I love my girlfriend. I haven't even talked about her I think. But I can honestly say, the past 7 months have been the best in my life, so good it feels like 2 months. But it feels like I've been dating my girlfriend (Shelae) for much longer. We both determined it was because we've been going on dates for like 1 1/2 years.
I feel dumb for not asking her out a long time ago, since we both.....fell for each other a long time ago. It feels like we've been a couple for years lol. But, thinking about her makes me smile. I mean, I've never had somebody CONSTANTLY on my mind, every single day. It's like the song goes, "I only think of you on two occasions, that's day and night". I THOUGHT I was in love with women before, but I never felt about them like I do Shelae. I love this woman with all my heart body and soul. I can honestly say I hope to make her my wife soon.
I feel dumb for not asking her out a long time ago, since we both.....fell for each other a long time ago. It feels like we've been a couple for years lol. But, thinking about her makes me smile. I mean, I've never had somebody CONSTANTLY on my mind, every single day. It's like the song goes, "I only think of you on two occasions, that's day and night". I THOUGHT I was in love with women before, but I never felt about them like I do Shelae. I love this woman with all my heart body and soul. I can honestly say I hope to make her my wife soon.
Friday, January 21, 2011
I'm..... understanding this idea of "marriage"
I use to wonder what exactly this thing "love" is. And, I know some time ago I wrote about it, multiple times. But, every so often things happen to change the way you think about a certain things, love being one of them. So, after being educated more about love and relationships (mainly what it says in the bible) I finally understand. I understand it so much.......that I almost feel like I'm ready for marriage, mentally.
Some of the things I've learned, I really feel are the "key players" in a successful marriage. Now, you don't have to be a Christian to have a successful marriage, but I do think you should at least understand these things to have it. So, enough of me talking about how we need to understand it, and let me say what it is we should understand. I'll start with men.
MEN
So, in the Christian wording, men need to Love their wives like God loves the Church. You got that? How bout this, a marriage is a union between a couple. They become one. So, a man should love his wife as if she was his own flesh, because no man would mistreat is own flesh, nor should he mistreat his wife. Nor should a man speak to his wife out of his right mind, or let anyone else do so. Your wife is your queen. She should all ways be considered in everything you do.
So what does that mean? Love your wife, NO MATTER WHAT!! But also, you should learn how to love your wife. What a man may think is showing love, may not be so for his wife. Of course, a wife needs to communicate that. A man needs to be the head of the house, but at the same time realize that a head is nothing without a body. He needs to be the Quarterback of the offense, but realize he's not the only one on the field.
Women
Plain and simple, respect your husband. To take it a step further, women should have 'reverence' for their husbands. Reverence beans to have the utmost respect and awe for their husbands. Not only that but she should be submissive to their husbands.
Now, in observing the bible class I was in, even Christian women have a problem with this. Because of the amount of individuality that the world has embedded in us, it seems just.....so out there. But look at marriages that last. Is the man the clear head of the household? Yes he is. Is the wife submissive? Yes she is. But like mentioned in the mens section, your husband shouldn't be making you do some crazy stuff anyhow.
Clearly, marriage is a 2-way street. It's team work. Men have their roles, and women have theirs. As long as both people are doing their parts, it can work. In fact, it's easier when both do their part. When a man loves a woman like he should, I'm sure it's much easier for her to show reverence for him and if women show reverence, it's much easier for a woman to love. Of course, all that comes down to their respective characters.
But....what if one person doesn't do their part in the system? Well, the bible COMMANDS us to do these things. Meaning, men, even if your wife doesn't respect you, you need to love her anyways. And women, even if your husband doesn't love you like he should, or even at all, you should be showing reverence for him. That's some deep stuff right there. But in those cases, all you can do is pray you're actions speak....LOUD.
Some of the things I've learned, I really feel are the "key players" in a successful marriage. Now, you don't have to be a Christian to have a successful marriage, but I do think you should at least understand these things to have it. So, enough of me talking about how we need to understand it, and let me say what it is we should understand. I'll start with men.
MEN
So, in the Christian wording, men need to Love their wives like God loves the Church. You got that? How bout this, a marriage is a union between a couple. They become one. So, a man should love his wife as if she was his own flesh, because no man would mistreat is own flesh, nor should he mistreat his wife. Nor should a man speak to his wife out of his right mind, or let anyone else do so. Your wife is your queen. She should all ways be considered in everything you do.
So what does that mean? Love your wife, NO MATTER WHAT!! But also, you should learn how to love your wife. What a man may think is showing love, may not be so for his wife. Of course, a wife needs to communicate that. A man needs to be the head of the house, but at the same time realize that a head is nothing without a body. He needs to be the Quarterback of the offense, but realize he's not the only one on the field.
Women
Plain and simple, respect your husband. To take it a step further, women should have 'reverence' for their husbands. Reverence beans to have the utmost respect and awe for their husbands. Not only that but she should be submissive to their husbands.
Now, in observing the bible class I was in, even Christian women have a problem with this. Because of the amount of individuality that the world has embedded in us, it seems just.....so out there. But look at marriages that last. Is the man the clear head of the household? Yes he is. Is the wife submissive? Yes she is. But like mentioned in the mens section, your husband shouldn't be making you do some crazy stuff anyhow.
Clearly, marriage is a 2-way street. It's team work. Men have their roles, and women have theirs. As long as both people are doing their parts, it can work. In fact, it's easier when both do their part. When a man loves a woman like he should, I'm sure it's much easier for her to show reverence for him and if women show reverence, it's much easier for a woman to love. Of course, all that comes down to their respective characters.
But....what if one person doesn't do their part in the system? Well, the bible COMMANDS us to do these things. Meaning, men, even if your wife doesn't respect you, you need to love her anyways. And women, even if your husband doesn't love you like he should, or even at all, you should be showing reverence for him. That's some deep stuff right there. But in those cases, all you can do is pray you're actions speak....LOUD.
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